Just the idea of lovability for mid-life women is something that is really powerful and positive. Lovability is about redefining what it means to be desirable and loved, moving away from societal pressures and embracing a new, more authentic kind of beauty and worth.
When we think about being 'lovable,' we often focus on things like physical appearance—youthfulness, a certain body type. But what if we redefined it? What if being lovable was about something deeper?
By shifting our focus on to qualities that mature with age, like wisdom, resilience, a sense of humor, confidence, and compassion – such a woman who knows who she is and what she wants, is incredibly attractive. A woman who has already navigated many of life's challenges already and has come out so much stronger, vital and vibrant - that is a different kind of 'beautiful’.
It's so interesting how society often makes women feel like they're losing their 'spark' or becoming invisible after a certain age. Have you ever been in that situation or felt that kind of pressure?
Well it is normal to feel that pressure, is it not also a choice we can make, to reject that narrative? To say, 'No, I'm not becoming invisible, I'm becoming more of myself'? Let’s start framing aging, not as a loss, but as an accumulation of experience.
Our lives are full of stories and experiences—raising families, building careers, surviving heartbreak, finding joy. All of that makes us more complex, more interesting, and in a way, more 'lovable' because we have so much more to offer.
When we talk about 'lovability,' we're not just talking about being attractive to a romantic partner. What about the love we get from our friends? Our family? And what about self-love?
Self-love is a crucial point, often, the most powerful and attractive thing a woman can do is love herself. When you are kind to yourself, when you value your own worth, it's a magnetism that others are drawn to. Self-love isn't selfish, but a foundation for all other relationships.
What if we lived in a world where a woman's value and 'lovability' only increased with age? What would that look like? What qualities would we admire the most? Their stability, their wisdom, their ability to be truly present, and their unapologetic nature.
I know for me, there was a time I felt pressured to look and act a certain way. But as I've gotten older, I've started to feel more comfortable in my own skin, and honestly, I think that's made me feel more lovable than ever.